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Your Children are Always Your Children (Part 1)
Your children are not your children
wrote the great Lebanese poet Khalil Gibran and I might agree wholeheartedly had my heart not been broken by fatherhood while thinking of having children you might expect that they will love you as a kindred spirit cherish you as their father honour you as a fellow human respect you as their elder — tacit expectations you may take for granted while they are infants you may feel the irresistible urge to share with them all you've got your attention your energy your heart your home your love your life your money your presence your secrets your time your worries you may feel the overflowing desire to fulfill all their whims and wishes respond to all their poops and burps just to make them smile or to give them a fair chance to live their own life more fully and far better than you ever could and as a result of your kindness and empathy your generosity and compassion you may find that they take you for granted instead of returning the love trust and respect you pour into them they may come to you with expectations, demands and commands instead of growing into kindred young ones they may become your task masters or slave drivers the more you give the more they take if you sacrifice your life in their formative years they may take it as entitlement to claim the whole of your life ... (continued in part 2)