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      Your Children are Always Your Children (part 2)

      (continued from part 1)
      ...
      your children may turn out not to feel like your children
      you may not relate to each other as kindred spirits 
      they may not honour you as their elder
      they may not respect you as a father
      they may seem more like aliens
      they may manipulate you
      they may humiliate you
      they may deceive you
      
      they can become tyrants 
      dictating their expectations and rules 
      mandating total and unconditional sacrifice 
      for the role their elusive child mind has designed
      for you around an idol of a perfect parent 
      
      their child mind is unable to see you  
      as a fallible fellow human
      their child mind sees you as a 
      parental genie powerful and ready 
      to fulfill their wildest wishes and whims
      even after they have long since grown
      into adults and parents themselves
      
      they may not behave like the children you dreamed of
      when they were mere twinkles in their father's eye
      they may become a pain in your arse
      and a noose around your neck
      they have the power to 
      keep that cursed chalice topped up 
      the chalice that contains the poison drink 
      you were drip-fed throughout your own childhood
      feeding you with each drop the deadly message:
      I have no right to my own life!
      
      and what do you do?
      how do you teach your children 
      the things you wanted to teach them
      when it's too late in life?
      you don't
      you continue loving them unconditionally 
      because
      that’s the kind of father you are
      and because 
      your children are always your children